I had a brief meeting with my staff some weeks back after close of work to address issues that might be drawing the business backwards and suggest the way forward. A lot of issues where raised and I already knew that part of it was true.
I have this habit of advising the younger generation rather than admonish them. We all have the freedom of doing whatever we want to do as long as it does not infringe on the right of others.
In the Nigerian constitution, freedom of speech, expression and worship is enshrined there in. But one thing we all must not fail to know is that freedom comes with responsibility and “obligation” if I may borrow the words of a lecturer Mr David from Ignatius Ajuru University, Port Harcourt, who walked into my photo studio to make a beautiful portrait of his beloved mother a few days ago. We actually got talking that is after business had been transacted. Taking him back to the meeting I held with my staff. I remembered asking my staff how many active hours they spend at work and in thier homes respectively. We found out that they spent more time in the work place, than they do in thier respective homes. I as a matter of fact let them know that the place where they spend most of thier active hours should be regarded as thier second home and it is expected that they put in thier best to keep the place working well just as they do in thier various. homes. This is where freedom of responsibility comes in.
In as much as we have the freedom to speak, act and associate with others, we should also know that so much is expected from us to keep the peace and sanctity of our homes, work place, our association with others and that of the society at large.
Someone once said, “Don’t ask what your country will do for you but what you can do for your country”. This is relatively true when we look at it vis a vis what you sow you will reap or what you give out you shall receive or borrowing a computer language, “garbage in garbage out”
What is it you want out of life? Do you want to be loved, then give out love to others. Do you want to succeed in life? Then you must earnestly help others succeed.
Do you want to make it in business. What have you done to help your bosses business succeed. Do you frustrate his business by coming late to work, by your bad attitude to work, your rudeness to customers, your insincerity, by stealing from him. What is it that you do in your place of work that will jeopardize the future and success of your boss’s business? Remember the law of nature can never be averted. THAT WHICH YOU DO TO OTHERS TODAY WILL EVENTUALLY GET TO YOU sooner than later.
Let’s bring this matter home. As a parent what kind of family do you want to have. What type of children do you want to raise. A peaceful home and God fearing children. What are you doing to ensure this. Do you constantly quarrel, fight and abuse your spouse and others before the watchful eyes of your children. It is a notable fact that CHILDREN LEARN MORE AND FASTER BY WHAT THEY SEE AND NOT WHAT THEY HEAR.
Talk, scold, admonish your wards from now till next year, and you are not a living example of a virtuous parent, YOU ARE WASTING YOUR TIME.
I was in a public vehicle one Sunday as I was returning from church, a woman who was with her children had a little misunderstanding with the conductor. You need to see the manner and abusive words that was coming out from the woman. She was invariably behaving like a demented person. What struck my mind then was what will be going on in the minds of that woman’s children. They probably will be thinking that that which their mother did is the proper way to behave. My little daughter who was with me ask me if that woman was mad. See what I mean. If this woman continues in this manner, your guess is as good as mine what her children will be in the future.
My fellow Parents, we must please learn to be mindful of what we say or do before our children. Some mothers have the habit of instigating their children against their husband’s at every little quarrel. This is sort of mind game they play with the children to emotionally blackmail their husband’s. This is totally condemnable. Those who indulge in this act fail to know WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND. What you are practically doing is generally teaching your children to hate. The days will come when the table will turn around and you shall become the object to be hated by your own children. This is the seed you sowed years back and which has born fruit of hatred. I have witnessed a case like this whereby a woman instigated her children against her husband. Today the children who are now grown up had realized that what their mother did was wrong and had now turned around to hate her. WHAT YOU GIVE OUT TO LIFE IS WHAT YOU GET. There is no two ways about this. It is what it is take it or leave it.
People testify to my calm and peaceful nature because of the kind of upbringing I had from my parents. From my childhood till I got married, I never for one day witness any form of quarrel or fight between my parents, even up to now they are old. So I had always desired to have a home like theirs. Not just desiring, I have also striven to do things that will only keep the peace and sanctity of my marriage and home. This is the only way you can be happy in your marriage. Strive to keep your home and not to destroy it by your words or actions.
REMEMBER WHAT WE GIVE OUT IS WHAT WE SHALL RECIEVE IN RETURN . EVIL BEGETS EVIL. GOOD BEGETS GOOD. THE LAW OF POLARITY SAYS LIKES ATTRACTS LIKE. PLEASE LETS FOCUS OUR MINDS ON REACHING OUT TO OTHERS IF WE WANT HELP TO COME TO US IN ANY MANNER. HAVE A PLEASANT WEEK.