Why Most Marriages Crash.
some lady called me at about 2pm today. she gave her name as Comfort but refuses to disclosed her surname. Well that is understandable. She complained that her husband of ten years has changed from a loving husband to a nagging one. she also said that he no longer respect her and talks to her insultingly before people especially his friends. She is contemplating quitting or having an extramarital affair so that she can be happy once again. Meanwhile, she said she had 4 beautiful children for her husband, three girls and a boy.
all marriages has its good and trying moments, but your ability to weather the storm and revive your love life is what makes the difference. wisdom is the only application that can set things right once again
I wrote this piece for all women or men going through the some kind of hiccups in their relationship. Please read diligently and be blessed
Love, Love, Love. What is love? What is your definition of love? Do you really believe in love?
Imagine this scenario, you met a guy/lady. You were swept off your feet instantly, you fall head over hills in love. You begin to have butterflies in your stomach each time you think of him/her and you always feel like being with each other all the time.. Excitement became part of your existence. Talks of not being able to leave without each other became a sing song in your relationship. You anticipate each other’s call.
talks starts flowing in. Wedding bells rang. You are all beaming with smiles on
the wedding day, appreciating all who took out time to be with you on this auspicious
day, one month, one year, gone, then two years, three years, four years, passes.
as the year flies by, the smiles, the laughter, the excitement, the butterflies
in the stomach begin to disappear. Sweet memories and sweet talks begin to dwindle
and dwindle. Slowly and surely, phone calls becomes a bother. The euphoria of
love begins to fade. You no longer want to be in each other’s company. As a matter
of fact, your partner’s presence becomes a burden and irritating. You get angry
easily at the other person, at the least provocation.
your partner is no longer appealing ,in short you will always bring up an excuse
not to have sex, you are either tied or not feeling up to it. You began to
wonder, how did I get here, how did I hook up with him/her? Did I make mistake
Listen, You are
not alone in this. Every relationship passes through this phase. But heh! You have
got to watch it for this is the point relationships breakdown. Be careful of
your thoughts so that you won’t be lead astray.
said “the key to a successful relationship is not in finding the right person
but learning to love the person you have found”. When you begin to experience this
phase in your relationship, don’t despair. Adjust your mindset. At this point,
you need to develop skills in patience and tolerance. This is equally a time
your learning skills in loving your partne,r is most needed.
”falling in love is a passive spontaneous experience .but after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria fades. this is why most marriages Crashes . It’s a natural cycle of every relationship experience. People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment like infidelity sets in. Some turn to work, a hobby, TV , friendship, drinking and abusive substance”
But I tell you categorically that the answer does not lie outside your relationship. Happiness is found within it, likewise the answer. You have to make conscientious effort to make your relationship work. Sustaining love is not passive or spontaneous just as is in fallen in love. You have to work on it diligently. It takes time effort and energy and most importantly, it requires wisdom. You have to seek the face of God as to know how to make it work.
Love is not
a mystery. Relationship has laws just as the natural laws of the universe. If you
know how to apply it and when, the results will be amazing.
THEREFORE A DECISION AND NOT A FEELING. Decide today to make your relationship
and marriage work no matter what.
always, GOD may determine who walks into your life, but it is up to you to let go
or make that person stay or walk away. Whatever your decision, you will be the
better or worse for it. Be wise.