Today I decided to delve into this Topic Deciet/Falsehood because of the damaging effect it has on Marriages. A lot of guys fake to be rich Or one thing or the other they are not. Do I call this inpersonators or impostors. Which ever one, all is geared towards misleading the other person to believe what is not real. Today as I was preparing for today’s work, one of my customers came to seek for advise. She just got married not quite long ago. But she discovered that her husband had been lying to her about his work
As she narrated, she met her husband while she was an undergraduate and she told her she is working with an oil firm. Whatever she demands for, he always provides without questions. Unknown to her he had lost his job as a driver a few months before they met, and had been borrowing money to satisfy her. Even their wedding was organized with borrowed money. How did she find out? Few months after thier wedding, some one came with police to his house to arrest him for failing to pay the loan he collected. This is how the hole truth came out. He has borrowed money to the tune of #3m from different people. How does he intend to pay back the money as he has no work currently. The little money she saved from her youth service “allowee” she has used to upset some minor debt incurred by him. She was weeping as she was narrating this. I asked if she had found out from her husband why he did such. She said the reason he gave was that if he had told her of his joblessness, she may not want to marry him and he does not want to loose her. And to worsen the matter she is 5 months pregnant. She is threatening to leave the man. I tried to calm her down and then advice her. This kind of a situation destroys Marriages. How will this lady be happy knowing that her man had deceived her.
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Cases of ladies living a false life just to get hooked to a man is prevailent and this is one the many reasons of broken marriages.
Allow me once more to give you another story. There was this lady who pretended that she is a prophet of God. When ever she is praying, She will go into some kind of frenzy, like when the holy spirit takes over an individual, and start prophesying. It was so real that one was bound to believe everything she says. This experience is first hand as it happened directly to me and my family. The whole family was made to believe that God was truly working through her. My father had some doubts though, but because he was alone in his thoughts and opinion, he just went along. At the long run the lady pronounced that my brother, the first son will get married to her as God wills it to be and that they will give birth to only a male child whom God will use to work wonders on Earth. Unknown to the rest of the family members, she had lured my brother into sleeping with her so as to manifest God’s purpose in his life. This was how we saw pregnancy. This thing happened I8 years ago. As I speak with you, she had given birth to six girls and one boy. The boy is about 4years old now. My brother almost lost his life in the process of this marriage if not for Divine intervention. They have broken up since four years now immediately after the birth of the boy. This is the highest form of deceit. Using God’s namely falsely to get married. The truth will surely come to the open one day and all that was built around it will surely crash.
Please ladies and gentlemen. Married and single. Be real, be truthful, be yourself whenever you enter into any relationship. Don’t pretend. Anyone who cannot accept you for what you are is not worthy of of you. Just do your best, be the best your can be and leave the rest to God. Your own man is on the way , very close to you just by a hairs breath. Your own wife is close by. Just trust God on this and you will never make any mistake.