The last time I did talked about courtship as a pre-requisite for marriage. Today I am going to let you into the secret of choosing the right partner for marriage. I urge you to take what am going to write here seriously if you truly want to marry and stay happily with your spouse.
A lot of young boys and girls hurry into marriage with their hearts and not their heads. The fact remains that for one to marry and stay married you need to use both your hearts and heads all together.
Don’t just get married to a guy because he has money or firm. This is for the ladies. And for the guys don’t hurriedly take a lady to the alter because of her beauty.
You need to know him or her down to her family, the father, the mother and siblings. Most especially the parents.
I urge you guys to make sure you know the disposition of your fiancée’s mother most especially. Try and study how she carries on in her home.
Is she the bossy type? Does she listen and respect her husband? Does she talk down on her husband and is she the type that likes her voice to be heard more than that of her husband. Whatever be the case, you need to open your eyes enough to discover any abnormal behavior from the girl’s parents. Know it that the girl’s mother’s character will be replicated in her daughter 90 You need to be careful and observant because any careless mistake at this point will throw you into a life time misery and agony. So you have to get it right now before is too late.
For the ladies, you need to watch out your guys father and know how he treats his wife. Is his family together? Does he beat his wife?
I will tell you a story. Back then in my university days level 100 to be precise , I had a friend who really wanted to marry me but each time he is always telling me about how his father beats his mother and refuses to give her money for her upkeeps rather he was lavishing money on a widow and her three children. I came from a family where love is cherished and upheld. My parents tries all the can to bring us up to watch each other’s back. I never for a day witness any fight or quarrel between my parents and I prayed to be like them.
So in effect when Emeka my fiancée tells me about his father, I began to see his father in him. Though he never treated me badly but I assume because we were just courting. When he finally marries me, I believe he will change. My assumption came to reality even before we made it to the alter. He was living in lagos and my I was in Nnamdi Azikiwe University Awka Anambra State. I visited him a lagos one day and was shocked to discover that he has started dating one of her nieghbours who he even laughs at and calls ‘old kargo’. She is a single mother and only leaves on men. The most annoying part of it was that the lady even keeps his money for him. This I know when I told him am leaving for my sister’s house the next day, he called her to get me some money. I was truly shocked by his act. I can remember vividly how he wept when he learnt of the ill treatment his father was given his mother. So when I got back to school, I wrote him a letter put in the picture we took together and call it quits.
So ladies out there please, be guided by your sense of good judgment when hooking up with a man. Marriage is a long time commitment and any mistake will ruin your life.