Each time I hear this wise words I remember my own story. How I managed to bring back home my straying husband.
I held on this words and y I can proudly say that I have the best husband on earth, a loving, caring, respectful and wonderful life partner. Who is proud of me and even tell people that I am all that he wants in a woman. You can achieve this and more if you keep on reading and follow my advice.
No charm, no juju is greater than this. Where juju or charm fails, this simple marriage principle strives to the end. Maybe I should rather tell my story here so that all of you would learn from it and better your marriages and homes.
Sometime in the past at the early stage of my marriage, I was living and working in Imo Broadcasting Corporation IBC Owerri as a drama producer, while my husband was leaving and managing our photographic company here in Port Harcourt. He visits us more often than I do, though that was how he wanted it to be. Rumors began to come to me of other women who wants to take away my husband from me. Even his mother and younger sister told me this too. What do I do, do I confront him with these allegations, No I told myself. Whatever it is I surrendered it to God and pretended that I never had anything.
I made up my mind to quit my work and join him in Port Harcourt, as my presence, I believe will scare some of these ladies away. The opportunity offered itself. My husband’s business began to expand and he started travelling abroad to buy his goods. I had to come in and help out so that the business does not suffer while he is away.
When I joined him, gradually he started keeping late nights and he will use traffic as an excuse. Sometimes he will come back by 10pm, at times 11 or 12 midnight. I will be boiling with anger inside of me and would want to confront him or even lock him out but I did none of these rather when these thoughts trips in, I will just say to myself you need to calm down, if you fight him or lock him out, you will only drive him further away. Most times to calm myself down I usually sit down and sing HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU continuously for several minutes. This is my way of surrendering and inviting God into my marriage to take charge.
One particular day he came back almost after midnight. He was expecting me to react but I never did. I welcomed him. Run his bath for him, asked him if he will like to eat, he said he wanted something light. I served him some veggies and fruit I had prepared earlier on. That night I made love to him like I had never before and told him how much I love and cherished him and our marriage.
This was the magic wand that changed his late nights crawling, he started taking my children and I out more often than he does before now. He broke up with the lady that was taking his attention away from his family. I know this because he told me so even without my asking him. He even told me that he has no interest in women any longer. That, day by day that all his thoughts are focused only on how to expand his business and give us the kind of comfort we desire.
Before he does or embarks on any project we will put our two good heads together and plan it out. And it surely works out.
Today we have expanded our business together and added another one PROPERLINKS; A China sea and Air Cargo shipping company and it is doing well to the glory of God.
What did you learn from my story?
Our men are being harassed every day by ladies who are almost walking nude on the streets. All we can do to help and save them from these slay ladies out there is to love and support them. Don’t push your husband into their waiting arms by nagging and carelessness. Keep yourself and your home clean and inviting so that your husband will know that ‘the thing wey him dey look for Sokoto dey for him Shokoto’ . Ladies please I beg of you. Take care of your skin, your looks and your dressing. Don’t say you are mother and have grown-ups so why will you bother with your looks.
No my dear there is no harm in looking ten years younger. Have you asked yourself why your husband doesn’t like going anywhere with you apart from church? Please change your style of dressing, dress neatly and responsibly too. Your husband will begin to show you off to his friends. ‘Who no like better thing’. Even the acclaimed born again.
So, to summarize my points, If you let go of all the grudges, quarrels, fighting’s and unnecessary confrontations in your marriage and surrender to God while still loving and supporting your husband all the way, you will surely enjoy your marriage and ‘live together ever after’.
So please LET GO AND LET GOD. You must do your part, then leave the rest to God.